Human nature

It has come to my attention that if you have person in your life who can makes you happy they can make you sad
Make you smile they can make you mad
Make you laugh they can make you cry
Make you high they can make you low
But the point here is that it is the reality of human nature
It is how we have been conditioned
We were not born this way
Coming to think of it , look at this scenario : If you were born in a christian household chances are you would be christian and you would have christian values and so forth .
If you were born in an islamic household you would be islamic and also in this case you would hold islamic values , the same could be said to a roman catholic , muslim child etc .

I find it strange that we cannot decide these things for ourselves just like if you were born next door you would have had all those toys and went to all those holidays but because the coin fell and left you with the parents you have , your stuck I mean just imagine if you were born next door all those things would have been yours and all the experiences that the neighbour child has would have been yours right ?

Well I think not , every child is born with a specific purpose and non can compare to each other
the most difficult thing in life is acceptance of who and what you are
If you cannot accept who you are and your family structure you are doomed to in most cases repeat the same mistakes as your parents made with you
Every morning when we wake up we have a chance to not only accept where and what we are but we can change it but I repeat the most important step is acceptance , trying to be like everyone else will be you're down fall in life
Only try to excel better than the person you were yesterday

“What I am really saying is that you don’t need to do anything, because if you see yourself in the correct way, you are all as much extraordinary phenomenon of nature as trees, clouds, the patterns in running water, the flickering of fire, the arrangement of the stars, and the form of a galaxy. You are all just like that, and there is nothing wrong with you at all.”
― Alan Watts

You will smile again

I want you to smile at yourself because you are beautiful
And don't let anybody I mean no opinion tell you any different
The thing I learned about life is that most people are going to see your flaws
And not your beauty , it's sad but true
Your going to be perfect to most but you will always be perfect for the heart God has for you
You have to understand that there is going to be somebody , somewhere at sometime thats is going to find something wrong with you
But the something wrong that they find is nothing but right for the heart that is meant to love you
You might be too outgoing or shy in their eyes but you know what , you have the perfect personality for the heart that is meant to love you
The first step to being unhappy in life, I learned this a long time ago is trying to please everybody
People are different they have different tastes
But never let those differences make you insecure about who you are
I want you to stop spending so much time in the mirror judging yourself, critiquing , bashing and I want you to start spending the rest of your life appreciating and loving yourself
You're beautiful because God says so
And that's all the confirmation that you need
I said this before and i will say it again, there will always be something wrong with you that is not right to a person who is not right for you
Your flaws are perfect for the heart that is meant to love you
Find someone who accept you for you
I want you to stay beautiful and I want you to keep practising that smile it all starts with you

Heat from the fire

when firefighters come to a burning house they come to put out the fire
but as a people we feel the heat from the fire
one can even say heat is the perfect personification of fire
so what burns you is not the fire , it is the heat .
but when the firefighters come they come to put out the fire and not the heat
you see without the fire there is no heat and you can't put out the heat without putting out the fire ?

when we are in battles in our lives just exactly who are we fighting against
have we established who the enemy is , your greatest enemy will hide in a place where you least expected
yes I'm talking about the battle field it is in the mind that we win or lose our battles in life
think of all the times you once started a project and how far you came to finishing it
you see we are our own greatest enemies
and most importantly we need to put value on the information we have , you see its not that most of us don't know how to save or lose weight or start a new business or whatever it is we want to do
it is in our minds where we win and sadly it is in our minds where we lose
if you have no objectives or a score sheet about the things you wish to do anything you do will seem like you're accomplishing something where else all you are is a busy person
when you have no goals and plans about your life anything that keeps you busy is better than doing nothing
you see it is in your mind where you win
In the fire there is a lot of hard work and sweat ,tears
in the heat success comes
so you see if you simply put out the fire it is near impossible to enjoy the heat

Done with being a nice guy.

Do you know that "NICE" guy
Thats me right there , you know when you're in high school and want to be part of the cool pretty ladies
I mean if you get seen hanging with them then you're sorted
Well that teenage me back then used to work for me , made friends very easily
get me in a room with complete strangers and I had them laughing like we have known each other for a very long time
that guy was cool
I think I took him and never let go because he worked for me but now I feel like his holding me back
I don't wanna be the funny guy girls like anymore
I wanna be in all honesty that other guy who doesn't care much and isn't really the good guy
the nice guy used to work but I feel his time has come to an end
he isn't useful anymore, sure he still gets me friends and is a very interesting guy but his too nice

This is note really me changing who I am
it's just that guy was useful back then and now instead of being useful he is being used
Some girls figured out i'm nice so im that guy they call when they need a favour
and all along I didn't realise I gave them something that most guys get something out of it
I gave them my Attention!!
I mean if they already have my Attention there's no point in them even giving any up
so it's we come hang out with the nice guy, then later we go home to our not so nice guys
This is B'S!!

"All that shit that used to be cool ain’t cool anymore
All the women we were pursuing, now they want more
And they deserve it all, don’t settle for what ain't yours" Andre3000

So I got thinking and I decided that a woman should earn my niceness
I shouldn't just give it away
And from there we establish if we are friends or something more then I know how much to give and when to let you know your taking it too far and go knock somewhere else
A friend of mine once told me : Man use love to get sex and Woman use sex to get love.

7 Steps to reaching your goal

I have this thing where I start and never finish
Seem like I have so many projects going on at the same time that i never even complete either of them
Always waiting in line to try the next big thing , listen to the latest , upgrade to the latest
First it was just my academic life and soon it moved to my job , health , relationships etc
always trying my hands on all the shinny new things that I see , never completing the old stuff
seems I like new , I need to start finishing what I start. which brings me to the point of goals.

Goal : An observable and measurable end result having one or more objectives to be achieved within a more or less fixed timeframe.A goal is a desired result a person or a system envisions, plans and commits to achieve a personal or organizational desired end-point in some sort of assumed development. Many people endeavor to reach goals within a finite time by setting deadlines.

Seven Steps to Reaching Your Goals
Successfully executing any personal strategic plan for change requires that as you develop your plan, you effectively incorporate these seven steps for attaining each and every goal:


1. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.

For a dream to become a goal, it has to be specifically defined in terms of operations, meaning what will be done. When a goal is broken down into steps, it can be managed and pursued much more directly. "Being happy," for example, is neither an event nor a behavior. When you set out to identify a goal, define what you want in clear and specific terms.

2. Express your goal in terms that can be measured.

How else will you be able to determine your level of progress, or even know when you have successfully arrived where you wanted to be? For instance, how much money do you aspire to make?

3. Assign a timeline to your goal.

Once you have determined precisely what it is you want, you must decide on a timeframe for having it. The deadline you've created fosters a sense of urgency or purpose, which in turn will serve as an important motivator, and prevent inertia or procrastination.

4. Choose a goal you can control.

Unlike dreams, which allow you to fantasize about events over which you have no control, goals have to do with aspects of your existence that you control and can therefore manipulate. In identifying your goal, strive for what you can create, not for what you can't.

5. Plan and program a strategy that will get you to your goal.

Pursuing a goal seriously requires that you realistically assess the obstacles and resources involved, and that you create a strategy for navigating that reality. Willpower is unreliable, fickle fuel because it is based on your emotions. Your environment, your schedule and your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you — long after an emotional high is gone. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Those temptations and opportunities compete with your more constructive and task-oriented behavior. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course.

6. Define your goal in terms of steps.

Major life changes don't just happen; they happen one step at a time. Steady progress, through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps, produces results in the end. Know what those steps are before you set out.

7. Create accountability for your progress toward your goal.

Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves. If you know precisely what you want, when you want it — and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work — you are much more likely to continue in your pursuit of your goal. Find someone in your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on your progress.

source : http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/45