I will survive .

At first I was afraid I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights
Thinking how you did me wrong
And I grew strong
And I learned how to get along
And now you're back
from outer space
I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second you'd be back to bother me
Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
Do you think I'd crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die?

Oh no, not I. I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give and I'll survive
I will survive,
I will survive! Hey, Hey!

It took all strength I had not to fall apart
Kept trying' hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart
And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself, I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high
And you see me, somebody new
I'm not that chained up little girl who's still in love with you
And so you felt like dropping in
And just expect me to be free
Now I'm saving all my lovin' for someone who's loving me
Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one who tried to crush me with goodbye
Do you think I'd crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die?

Oh no, not I. I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give and I'll survive
I will survive, Oh

Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one who tried to crush me with goodbye
Do you think I'd crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
Oh no, not I. I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give and I'll survive
I will survive,
I will survive!

It took all the strength I had not to fall apart
Kept trying' hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart
And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself, I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high
And you see me, somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person who's still in love with you
And so you felt like dropping in
And just expect me to be free
Now I'm saving all my lovin' for someone who's loving me
Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one who tried to crush me with goodbye
Do you think I'd crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die?

Oh no, not I. I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give and I will survive
I I I WILL survive

(fading ending:)

Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one who tried to crush me with goodbye
Do you think I'd crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die?

What is stress : (

Stress is a normal physical response to experiences that make you feel somewhat threatened or upset your balance in a way. When you sense danger—whether it’s real or imagined—the body's defenses kick into high gear in a rapid, automatic process known as the “fight-or-flight-or-freeze” reaction, or the stress response.

The stress response is the body’s way of protecting you. When working properly, it helps you stay focused, energetic, and alert. In emergency situations, stress can save your life—giving you extra strength to defend yourself, for example, or spurring you to slam on the brakes to avoid an accident.

The stress response also helps you rise to meet challenges. Stress is what keeps you on your toes during a presentation at work, sharpens your concentration when you’re attempting the game-winning free throw, or drives you to study for an exam when you'd rather be watching TV.
But beyond a certain point, stress stops being helpful and starts causing major damage to your health, your mood, your productivity, your relationships, and your quality of life.

How does one go about responding to it.
It's important to learn how to recognize when your stress levels are out of control. The most dangerous thing about stress is how easily it can creep up on you. You get used to it. It starts to feel familiar, even normal. You don't notice how much it's affecting you, even as it takes a heavy toll.

The signs and symptoms of stress overload can be almost anything. Stress affects the mind, body, and behavior in many ways, and everyone experiences stress differently. Not only can overwhelming stress lead to serious mental and physical health problems, it can also take a toll on your relationships at home, work, and school.

For the drivers out there here is a driving analogy by Psychologist Connie Lillas describing how people respond when overwhelmed by stress
belows are the 3 most common

• Foot on the gas – An angry, agitated, or “fight” stress response. You’re heated, keyed up, overly emotional, and unable to sit still.
• Foot on the brake – A withdrawn, depressed, or “flight” stress response. You shut down, pull away, space out, and show very little energy or emotion.
• Foot on both – A tense or “freeze” stress response. You become frozen under pressure and can’t do anything. You look paralyzed, but under the surface you’re extremely agitated.

Now here is a story to sum up it all up. Take some time reading the story below and absorb it .

"Boss, our dog, sat looking up the tree; ears cocked, and tail tensely wagging. He
was attending to a monkey. Just one thing filled his consciousness: the monkey. No
thought disturbed his total concentration, no worry for tomorrow. Boss was the
nearest thing to Contemplation I have ever seen.
You may have experienced some of this yourself when you were totally absorbed
watching a dog at play.
Here is a formula for Contemplation, as good as any 1 know: Be totally in the present.
Drop every thought of the future, drop every thought of the past, drop every image and
abstraction, and come into the present. Contemplation will arise!
After years of training, the disciple begged his Master to bring him to Enlightenment.
The Master led him to a bamboo grove and said, “See that bamboo, how tall it is ?
See that other one there, how short it is?”
And the disciple was enlightened. "

A testament on life.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles roll
ed into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.The students laughed..

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—-your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—-and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.. The sand is everything else—-the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and mow the lawn.

Take care of the golf balls first—-the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

Remember me

You once made them smile but now they don't remember
You once gave them hope
Fed them
Shared you last drop of water when they were about to die of thirst
They called you the best
Drew pictures of you
Called you great names
Made you a super star
Gave you the world
Changed the rules to suit you
Made you feel like a superhero
Gave you accolades

Now you stand accused
In the midst of the whole world
The same person who called you a hero now wants to prosecute you
The once who gave you fame now bring you shame
The people who sang for you now swear at you
The very same people who loved you now hate you

We as human are very dysfunctional and our feelings can change at any moment without hesitation
It's sad to know that what once brought joy to you can also fill you up with hatred and regret
We are hypocrites and very judgemental
We only hold favour to those who hold favour for us
We are but a candle light
Let us light up each other lives before the wind comes and blows us away
There cannot be so much hate , we are made from love
Hatred is the most unnatural thing for us to do
We are better than this

The 80:20 Rule

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT 

in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking 

in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better 

with the other 20% that you WANT. But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing

 the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

As I read the rule , I thought of a question a friend of mine asked.

Why do we go back to our Ex's ? 

On my side I would say that it's about comparisons 

It's not that your present partner does give you what you want , it's just that we as human beings are for lack of a better word : Selfish 

I mean you have a good 80 % or do you ?

I personally believe when we are in a committed relationship , we should give up the 20% as well 

Who are u holding it back for , so unconsciously do we want our relationships to fail so we have a reason to go back to our 20% 

Do we really give it our best or we hold back a part for when things don't go our way 

I say have no back-ups in your head/mind/heart/phone 

Give it all you got , everything you have 

Let's learn to go all out and give it our best , make the relationship you're in the best one yet , the best one you will ever have 

don't even think of a heartbreak or anything negative 

Focus all your attention on making your current partner happy 

let them be the centre of your universe , let them be the one in your life and no one else 

Don't get me wrong , don't go neglecting your friends and family 

what I mean is the person you're dating should be the person you're dating 

don't be holding back and thinking what if , let's be honest there will always be some one hotter , smarter , richer , funnier etc

but if you build your world around the person you say you're in relations with and just give it your all

that's it 

 don't be thinking of the other 20% , let the person your with be 80 % and 20 % 

but it requires communication , never assume the other person is on the same page as you with sex , finances , family planning etc

talk and ask questions , learn the person your with 

lets stop giving up on each other 

Dedicated to my girlfriend , babe your my 100% .