25 Reasons Why We Cheat

Seems like the number one issue most women have with men is us Cheating on them. How are we going to solve this and prevent more broken homes.

Why do we cheat? It is easy and in abundance. Seriously, back in the day when someone said they were in a relationship most people walked away instantly right after that and didnt proceed to say or do anything further. When you knew she was married you walked on the opposite side of the road. Seems like these days it is a trophy for people to sleep around with people in a relationship. We made cheating cool. People even call themselves side dishes without any issues. For some people who have busy lives being the side dish seems more interesting as it leaves them more time to do other things but have someone to call on to when the night is cold and they need some warmth. We demand more commitment from our jobs than we do from our relationships.

Here are the top 25 Reasons Why We Cheat.

Inability to say no
To boost our ego
Peer Pressure
To end the relationship
Because you let us
We view it as a status symbol
To satisfy our sexual orientation
To see what it’s like to have sex with someone else.
Because we know we can get away with it
Opportunistic sex.
A Sense Of Entitlement
We figure you'll never find out
To prove our manhood
The thrill of the chase
"He’s a player"
We know you’ll take us back
Love
Poor role models 
To participate in certain sex acts
The influence of drugs or alcohol
Cultural reasons
To see if we still “got it.”
We know you’ll put up with our cheating
Revenge

Sex addiction

Are You Ready For A Blessing?

We dream, well most us dream.
We pray and pray some more and fast, well we try to fast for our dreams to come true but in all honesty most of us are not ready for our dreams to be a reality. Let me tell you a little story first.

Once upon a time in a far away land lived a young man who had devoted his whole life to the Lord. As the years went by he got old and came to a decision that he was now very old and wanted to retire. This now old man of God was naturally well off spiritually but he didn't have much money so he decided to ask God to let him win the lottery. He prayed on it for the first month or 3 and nothing happened. A year went by then 2 years past. He in anger shouted to the Lord " Help me win the lotto" and then to his surprise God answered and said: Buy a ticket!!

A lot of us have been knocking in so many doors for so long. A lot of us have been hoping and dreaming of great things to happen in our lives but my question to you is are you ready? Seriously if all your prayers got answered today, right now would you be able to handle them? Ok let's go back to the basics I will give a typical example of the things most people pray for. A young man prays for a beautiful wife, my question to the young man is: Are you ready for commitment? Can you provide for your family? Look at that young beautiful wife of yours are you ready to wakeup next to her till your last dying breath?
To the young woman who prays for a husband: Can you cook? Are you willing to submit yourself to your husband? Will you take care of that man and cherish him?

Look It's all good and well to pray for "Things" but be honest with yourself if the Lord gave you the things you want today are you ready for them?

The Duality Of Life

I want to be rich, I want to end world hunger

I want to be a player, I want to be faithful to a single woman

I want to have wild crazy weekends, I want to go to church on Sunday

I want to eat food that I want, I want to eat healthy

I want to commit, I want to play

I often have this dual dialog in my head about the things I want and how to go about achieving them. I have seen educated man and woman die poor. And I have seen stupid fools accumulate wealth and buying fancy toys. I have seen fathers who have many children and yet they have no responsibility at all. Don't get me wrong any tom dick and harry can send a certain amount of money to take care of their child, that is easy. Where are the fathers who actually see their children growing up and not just spend some weekends with them and take alot of pictures to show us on Facebook. I am very angry at woman and more so at man who leave their seeds behind and make things difficult for us to come and make a home with these woman. Back in the days all I knew was that people who had children were the ones that were married but things have changed.

At some point even thou Tradition seems primitive it  had it's purpose and gave us a sense of direction. Firstly I still believe in marriage and I think it is a beautiful thing and I for one cannot wait until I get married "Hopefully lol"  I say hopefully because in this life time you can never really know. Call me arrogant or whatever makes you feel better about the decisions that have led you to the life you are leading. One of the fundamental things for a child is a sense of belonging. I dont see the healthiness in a child growing up believing their grandmother is their mother and their aunt is their little sister. We need to start taking responsibilities for the decisions that we make. I am not a saint by any means but what is wrong is wrong even if it is popular.

My First 10km Marathon.

"We are different, in essence, from other men. If you want to win something, run 100 meters. If you want to experience something, run a marathon."

Emil Zatopek

I usually Run 5km on Saturday's early in the morning, that is if I had a sober friday night which happens but does not happen as often as i would like. I do the 5km in about 00:33.15. Let's say I average 33 minutes and if I am having a good run I can go under 30 minutes, that only happens if I didn't even touch a wink of alcohol for that week preceding the run. Great Run Africa was where I lost my marathon virginity. My very first 10km and I finished it at 01:10:25. Like I told a friend in my defence I could have had a better time but the organisers decided to give us a steep hill from Mars!!

The Marathon began and ended at the beautiful Union Buildings in Pretoria.

A Lot has been said of how sports brings us together and for a very long time to me it was just a quote like any other, It didn't really hit home until I experienced the depth behind the statement. So I went to the marathon alone, I even woke up early because I was so excited I just wanted to run run run....... 

As the race began I paced myself  like how I would normally run my 5km, as the race progressed I found myself running behind and infront of a lot of people till we got to about 2 km or so I saw the gentleman in the picture above he was running behind me and i thought i was blocking his way so made space and told him he can pass me, he responded by saying he was pacing himself using me so i thought cool the more reason to keep this pace and so on we went with a 3rd guy but he later deserted us because just after 6 km we both felt our knees giving up and he still had energy, so on he went. I was too tired but I couldn't stop as I was leading and didn't want to slow him down but nature gave in and I stumbled and walked a bit so did he and we got a chance to talk about the race and motivate each other to keep going. We rested for a while and in as much as we were both tired and felt like walking the whole way we both agreed we were gonna go for it and so we did. We crossed the finish line together and I just felt a need to ask him for a picture so I can remember it and he obliged as you can see above.