Tuesday, 17 June 2014

Done with being a nice guy.



Do you know that "NICE" guy
Thats me right there , you know when you're in high school and want to be part of the cool pretty ladies
I mean if you get seen hanging with them then you're sorted
Well that teenage me back then used to work for me , made friends very easily
get me in a room with complete strangers and I had them laughing like we have known each other for a very long time
that guy was cool
I think I took him and never let go because he worked for me but now I feel like his holding me back
I don't wanna be the funny guy girls like anymore
I wanna be in all honesty that other guy who doesn't care much and isn't really the good guy
the nice guy used to work but I feel his time has come to an end
he isn't useful anymore, sure he still gets me friends and is a very interesting guy but his too nice

This is note really me changing who I am
it's just that guy was useful back then and now instead of being useful he is being used
Some girls figured out i'm nice so im that guy they call when they need a favour
and all along I didn't realise I gave them something that most guys get something out of it
I gave them my Attention!!
I mean if they already have my Attention there's no point in them even giving any up
so it's we come hang out with the nice guy, then later we go home to our not so nice guys
This is B'S!!

"All that shit that used to be cool ain’t cool anymore
All the women we were pursuing, now they want more
And they deserve it all, don’t settle for what ain't yours" Andre3000

So I got thinking and I decided that a woman should earn my niceness
I shouldn't just give it away
And from there we establish if we are friends or something more then I know how much to give and when to let you know your taking it too far and go knock somewhere else
A friend of mine once told me : Man use love to get sex and Woman use sex to get love.




Monday, 9 June 2014

7 Steps to reaching your goal


I have this thing where I start and never finish
Seem like I have so many projects going on at the same time that i never even complete either of them
Always waiting in line to try the next big thing , listen to the latest , upgrade to the latest
First it was just my academic life and soon it moved to my job , health , relationships etc
always trying my hands on all the shinny new things that I see , never completing the old stuff
seems I like new , I need to start finishing what I start. which brings me to the point of goals.

Goal : An observable and measurable end result having one or more objectives to be achieved within a more or less fixed timeframe.A goal is a desired result a person or a system envisions, plans and commits to achieve a personal or organizational desired end-point in some sort of assumed development. Many people endeavor to reach goals within a finite time by setting deadlines.

Seven Steps to Reaching Your Goals
Successfully executing any personal strategic plan for change requires that as you develop your plan, you effectively incorporate these seven steps for attaining each and every goal:


1. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.

For a dream to become a goal, it has to be specifically defined in terms of operations, meaning what will be done. When a goal is broken down into steps, it can be managed and pursued much more directly. "Being happy," for example, is neither an event nor a behavior. When you set out to identify a goal, define what you want in clear and specific terms.

2. Express your goal in terms that can be measured.

How else will you be able to determine your level of progress, or even know when you have successfully arrived where you wanted to be? For instance, how much money do you aspire to make?

3. Assign a timeline to your goal.

Once you have determined precisely what it is you want, you must decide on a timeframe for having it. The deadline you've created fosters a sense of urgency or purpose, which in turn will serve as an important motivator, and prevent inertia or procrastination.

4. Choose a goal you can control.

Unlike dreams, which allow you to fantasize about events over which you have no control, goals have to do with aspects of your existence that you control and can therefore manipulate. In identifying your goal, strive for what you can create, not for what you can't.

5. Plan and program a strategy that will get you to your goal.

Pursuing a goal seriously requires that you realistically assess the obstacles and resources involved, and that you create a strategy for navigating that reality. Willpower is unreliable, fickle fuel because it is based on your emotions. Your environment, your schedule and your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you — long after an emotional high is gone. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Those temptations and opportunities compete with your more constructive and task-oriented behavior. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course.

6. Define your goal in terms of steps.

Major life changes don't just happen; they happen one step at a time. Steady progress, through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps, produces results in the end. Know what those steps are before you set out.

7. Create accountability for your progress toward your goal.

Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves. If you know precisely what you want, when you want it — and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work — you are much more likely to continue in your pursuit of your goal. Find someone in your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on your progress.

source : http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/45