Remember me

You once made them smile but now they don't remember
You once gave them hope
Fed them
Shared you last drop of water when they were about to die of thirst
They called you the best
Drew pictures of you
Called you great names
Made you a super star
Gave you the world
Changed the rules to suit you
Made you feel like a superhero
Gave you accolades

Now you stand accused
In the midst of the whole world
The same person who called you a hero now wants to prosecute you
The once who gave you fame now bring you shame
The people who sang for you now swear at you
The very same people who loved you now hate you

We as human are very dysfunctional and our feelings can change at any moment without hesitation
It's sad to know that what once brought joy to you can also fill you up with hatred and regret
We are hypocrites and very judgemental
We only hold favour to those who hold favour for us
We are but a candle light
Let us light up each other lives before the wind comes and blows us away
There cannot be so much hate , we are made from love
Hatred is the most unnatural thing for us to do
We are better than this

The 80:20 Rule

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT 

in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking 

in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better 

with the other 20% that you WANT. But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing

 the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

As I read the rule , I thought of a question a friend of mine asked.

Why do we go back to our Ex's ? 

On my side I would say that it's about comparisons 

It's not that your present partner does give you what you want , it's just that we as human beings are for lack of a better word : Selfish 

I mean you have a good 80 % or do you ?

I personally believe when we are in a committed relationship , we should give up the 20% as well 

Who are u holding it back for , so unconsciously do we want our relationships to fail so we have a reason to go back to our 20% 

Do we really give it our best or we hold back a part for when things don't go our way 

I say have no back-ups in your head/mind/heart/phone 

Give it all you got , everything you have 

Let's learn to go all out and give it our best , make the relationship you're in the best one yet , the best one you will ever have 

don't even think of a heartbreak or anything negative 

Focus all your attention on making your current partner happy 

let them be the centre of your universe , let them be the one in your life and no one else 

Don't get me wrong , don't go neglecting your friends and family 

what I mean is the person you're dating should be the person you're dating 

don't be holding back and thinking what if , let's be honest there will always be some one hotter , smarter , richer , funnier etc

but if you build your world around the person you say you're in relations with and just give it your all

that's it 

 don't be thinking of the other 20% , let the person your with be 80 % and 20 % 

but it requires communication , never assume the other person is on the same page as you with sex , finances , family planning etc

talk and ask questions , learn the person your with 

lets stop giving up on each other 

Dedicated to my girlfriend , babe your my 100% .

The Frog.

Scientists tested a frog. They cut it's legs off and they said "jump!" The frog didn't jump.
Scientist therefore concluded that when frogs lose their legs, they become deaf.

For me its about measurement . If you grade a fish on its ability to clime a tree, it will always come short. just like if you compare your life
with other people you will always come up short and feel like life isn't fair , but if you count your blessing one by one you will surely see how far you've gone and just how blessed and gifted you are.
The day I stopped comparing myself to my friends was the day I started being happy , lets
choose to let their accomplishment inspire us than make me jealous . In other words I am better of now than I was a year ago but if I use the wrong
measuring tool I will always come up  short

I know the world is full of hate and anger , jealousy and a whole lot of things
We need to accept who and what we are as human beings in order for us to move on with our lives
Its difficult to want good things or share your bread with your neighbour when your also hungry
When we can't stop judging our selve how do we think we will be able to accept others
I truly believe life can be such a joyful thing to experience
You dont chase out the darkness you simply put in light , so much light that the darkness simply removes itself
We are more than able to achieve these goals
Don't you just simply wish sometimes you could change the way people think and be just like you
But what would be the point of all of that
We are individuals and we should embrace that fact
Lets kill each other with happiness, joy, laughter, songs, hugs, kisses, friendship
Lets give each other so much positiveness that there is no space for any negativeness
Lets learn to un-hate and love

"When your cup is full stop pouring" Unknown

When.....

when you see your life passing you by
when feeling like you haven't achieved anything
when everyone around you seem to be moving forward and your slowly moving backwards
when all your plans don't make it off the ground
when your rights become wrong
when everything you know disappears
when tomorrow looks too far gone
when next week brings you more depression before it even arrives
when the music stops playing
when your surrounded by people and feel alone in a crowd
when waking up takes more out of you than anything else
when your scared and frustrated
when all the promises people make don't come to pass
when you have no one to call and your phone book is full of people
when your hungry and thirsty
when no one wants to sit with you
when no one invites you to their parties
when strangers greet you to only ask for time and move on
when the streets are full of lights and your room is dark
when you travel and never arrive
when theres nothing in your wallet but old receipts
when your afraid of answering private calls
when your in church and feel like part of the furniture

At this point I am suppose to say something motivating but honestly I got nothing for you
Wish I had a formula I could give you
Maybe 10 tips or 7 steps
But I don't

Best advice I can give you is to continue waking up every morning and do your best .
Just do the best you can do .

To my Muse

You cant really catch it 

Or hold it with both arms 

But you can feel it 

You know its all over you 

It makes waking up in the morning much easy and bearable 

It gives you hope 

It makes you feel like you can fly

When I first met you it didn't feel like we were strangers 

We sat up talking all night like old friends 

Honestly I don't remember what you were wearing 

I don't remember your shoes

I remember you

I remember our conversation 

I remember how I felt when I was sitting next to you

I remember your smile 

I remember the way you looked at me , like no woman has ever done before 

I remember the way you made me laugh

I remember you, all of you, I remember us 

I remember we were not talking but connecting 

I remember your scent 

I remember you

Once in a while you meet someone 

With no expectations or reservations you open yourself to any possibility

You take a chance and say 'hi' one more time 

Call it magic

As I hold you in my arms 

I am your soldier , if anyone ever even took your smile away I would go to war 

I am singing it out loud , I am singing it in your heart

I want more

I want more 

More 

More 

I can't help it more is good right ?

I want a bigger TV , bed , a bigger place to stay ?

I want more 

We never take time to be thankful for what we have . 

I have some jeans I bought some months back , never used them and on the weekend I bought a few more. 

It only occurred to be late on Sunday what I had done .

So here I am looking at my latest pair of jeans and I happen to glance at the other pair I had bought earlier on. Like why would I do such a thing 

I mean I have enough jeans to start with , why would I go and buy more jeans 

On average I usually have 2 favorite jeans that I wear on the regular in any given season 

But why would I go buy more jeans when I already have enough jeans in the first place 

I am a very curious person so I read a lot of international news especially around Africa . 

So today I read a story of a woman who wanted to commit suicide by burning herself , likely she survived and when asked why she would commit such a horrible thing by her husband of 24 years, she said : she had seen enough and couldn't take it any more . The soldiers have burned her heart , they took away her hope and seeing her children suffer because she couldn't feed them killed her spirit she was no longer alive .

And here I am buying a pair of jeans , jeans that I will most probably never wear or notice are around 

I am sad , the story broke my heart 

We want more , more all the time and yet if we counted our blessing one by one we will surely agree to the fact that we have more that enough and we don't need any more pair of jeans 

Lets stop buying jeans