The Rain And Mud

Its funny how when you fix one area another hole seems to creep  up. So I got a new place in a completely different province and the weather at first was awesome, I mean compared to where I am from back home it gets pretty hot. I mean humid and hot simultaneously. I just bought a fan at my new place and as I was about to take a quick nap I just realized it is not as quiet as it was before. The fan has sorted my heat problem but now I have to get used to the noise the fan makes, given it is not that loud but still. So it got me thinking, you know how they say when you pray for rain you have to deal with the mud as well. So here I am thankful for my fan and the fact that I don’t have to deal with the mosquito's too anymore.

Ever heard people say the price is this much, but T & C’s apply? Same can be said about the things we pray for and seek out in life. To drive the point home let me tell you another rain and mud story. So I recently got full access to my parent’s cars and as excited as I was I realized I am being tricked somehow. You get the car keys and expect to just drive along with no care in the world until you realize hey wait a minute this car needs petrol, needs a wash etc. And that is when the headache starts, so I had to be included in the insurance which meant my allowance got a bit lighter lol :) :) :).

In conclusion I remember when a good friend of mine just bought a car. We were supposed to meet that day or something and when we spoke on the phone he told me he was “stuck in traffic” and I exclaimed to him yes you are “stuck in traffic” get it he is stuck in traffic? The rain was the car and the mud was the traffic. Let us learn to be grateful and understand the responsibilities that come with the things we desire.

At My Lowest

I have been so high the thought of being low never crossed my mind. There is a saying "when you are wining who thinks about loosing"
No one on top ever takes time to think about being on the bottom. We like winning, we all do. No one wants to loose but the sad reality is we all loose, no one is immune to the pain of a great lose. I often reflect on the best times of my life, at a point where I even thought it just couldn't get better than this. The thing is life is full of ups and downs. I have been the presence of men who have it all, the fancy things and clothes but they cant even remember the last time they went home because they have non. You see we all loose, in some form or shape be it monetary, emotional, physical or what have you. The honest truth is no other person can wear your shoes better than you can, even if they think they can. We have all been given enough. I have traveled and seen a lot in my 20 something odd years in this world and I can tell you for certain that we all loose.

I'm at a point in my life right now where it seems like I loose all the time. Like everything i touch just comes crashing down, i find it hard to breath at times I have to get away and just go to the mountains and be at peace before i have to come back down and deal with it all. Every time i loose i get stronger and tougher. Every time I get disappointed I become harder, a strong shell, it takes a lot to break me now. I am ready for the next chapter in my life.

You might be loosing in some aspect of your life at the moment. You may be feeling like life is leaving you behind. Like your the last one to cross the finish line. I want to tell you this it takes great courage to dust your self of and try again, people like us are strong, we don't scare easily, we don't break down easily, we stand tall and try again because we know greater is He in us than the one in the world. We might loose often but when we win, we win for life.

Why we always go back.....

Why would you voluntarily accept someone back in your life knowing very well that they bring only pain and headache.
They make you suffer love.
Every time you tell people that you are in a relationship you know it is a lie because of the price you pay daily to have that person in your life.
Why put yourself in such a mess just to be with someone.
We have become to absent in even our own lives that we are not even satisfied with our self
always searching always planning for the next one.
Most of us are in many relationships at the same time, this is what I mean
you have your so called main and a few others just in case things go bad at home you have others who will take over at a moments notice and you see no shame in such behavior.
We demean our self in order to create a sense of ownership by having all these multi relationships at the same time so we can feel more important because we have alot of people telling us that they love us and we never have to feel lonely or unwanted.
There is always someone who is just a phone call a phone call away to help relieve our loneliness.
I belive most people can't even remember the last time they were not dating or belonged to someone.
We always have to have next, we have people who are on stand by we have people that when our partners have said no, we know they will say yes out of a pure desire to be with us
they will do as we please until they also become unsatisfied with us that they now begin to say no and so likewise we move on to the next one who will say yes.

Baby Mama And A Condom

The challenge I feel is that the things I go gaga over are things you have experienced and have no interest in them whatsoever, the baby to me just made a pooo pooo and to you the baby just made a mess. I want us to experience the baby teething, learning how to walk, eating a lemon for the first time and so on.
I am not against dating a single mom, no not at all. I have dated one or two and it's always tricky when you meet their child for the first time and the kid does something stupid and you wanna correct them, I have this nightmare that the kid is just gonna look at me straight in the eyes and yell " You are not my father so you can't tell me what to do" as rude as what the child is saying it's actually true, you have no authority to tell them what and what not to do, so this kinda splits your relationship with the child apart. You want to be in his mom's life and he wants you to respect his dominion, I mean you just came out of nowhere, the child doesn't know who you are and doesn't owe you anything.
I know some idiot will say there are always challenges in relationships but my point here is that this particular challenge could have been prevented. I am not a parent but any man who deserts his child is as useful as an empty wallet. I love children, I really do and I believe children deserve the best out of life as a parent it is your duty to make sure you give them the best of you financially and otherwise.

I love single moms if for no other reason is that they are super independent , they never ask you for anything all they want is your attention and you know lol. Regardless of my rampage no child is a mistake, every child is a precious gift from up above, all i'm advocating for is responsible young adults who are able to wait and do right by their so called "Bae" and babies. Let us all learn to take responsibility for our actions. one common thing I have gathered when asking single moms what happened is this (according to me, I mean this is my blog after all) they say that as they were dating these man , a week in or month or so the guy started not using condoms anymore and they just let him because they thought he had a plan since they were having unprotected sex that the guy knew what he was doing and he had a direction for the relationship.
I will just leave it there since I don't know much about relationships and stuff like that. I mean I am single after all but that scenario up there is just plain crazy!!

25 Reasons Why We Cheat

Seems like the number one issue most women have with men is us Cheating on them. How are we going to solve this and prevent more broken homes.

Why do we cheat? It is easy and in abundance. Seriously, back in the day when someone said they were in a relationship most people walked away instantly right after that and didnt proceed to say or do anything further. When you knew she was married you walked on the opposite side of the road. Seems like these days it is a trophy for people to sleep around with people in a relationship. We made cheating cool. People even call themselves side dishes without any issues. For some people who have busy lives being the side dish seems more interesting as it leaves them more time to do other things but have someone to call on to when the night is cold and they need some warmth. We demand more commitment from our jobs than we do from our relationships.

Here are the top 25 Reasons Why We Cheat.

Inability to say no
To boost our ego
Peer Pressure
To end the relationship
Because you let us
We view it as a status symbol
To satisfy our sexual orientation
To see what it’s like to have sex with someone else.
Because we know we can get away with it
Opportunistic sex.
A Sense Of Entitlement
We figure you'll never find out
To prove our manhood
The thrill of the chase
"He’s a player"
We know you’ll take us back
Love
Poor role models 
To participate in certain sex acts
The influence of drugs or alcohol
Cultural reasons
To see if we still “got it.”
We know you’ll put up with our cheating
Revenge

Sex addiction